The "Single" Phenomenon
... I realised as I was writing this book that a lot of what I and others like me have experienced applies to all age groups no matter what sex you are or what sexual preference you have; straight or gay, we are all looking for that “special someone” in our lives. And it doesn’t matter whether your last relationship lasted six months or 26 years;, life is different when you are single no matter what age you are. Whether you like to admit it or not, everyone is trying to find that elusive love . . . that person to connect with . . . that person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

... So being single, how do any of us find our “soul mate”—that “special person” who makes your heart beat just that little bit faster and makes you smile every time you see them? . . .  that person who brings the sparkle back into your eyes and motivates you to be the best you can be because you want to be? . . . who is interested in you and everything about you, no matter how mundane it appears to be? . . . who cares deeply about you and genuinely wants to understand how you feel inside - and you want to do the same for them? . . . the person who helps you feel that life is complete? . . . the one that you want to cherish and have cherish you? . . . that special someone who is there in the bad times as well as the good? . . .  who loves you no matter what you look like first thing in the morning and accepts you for you, warts and all? . . .  the person who won’t criticise you but wants to do everything they can to help you, and you in turn want to do the same for them? . . . the person who is your lover, your best friend, and the only person you want to truly allow into your life and spend the rest of it with?

Well, if you will indulge me, I have a few thoughts that you might just be interested in. But first,  let's look at where the really big changes started ,and hopefully together you and I can have a laugh and a giggle along the way. Then we will get into the really big issues—yes, dating today and how we go about it.

This is only an extract from this chapter

Topic covered in this chapter: Looking at the single lifestyle.



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